The Power of Knowing Who You Are and What You Want What if you had the power to determine who shows up in your dating life? What would be most important to you? Too often, we think we know who we're looking for, but then discover that we've settled, confusing a fling for somebody worth our time and commitment. As a professional divorced mother of two, Claire Brown quickly realized she didn't have the time to date haphazardly and she didn't want to settle . In Ring or Fling , she shares her most important lesson: the power a woman has in dating is the confidence she carries by knowing who she is and what she wants. When we have faith in our own self worth, defining our dating standards comes easily. Then, those who align with those standards start to show up in our world. Follow Claire through the funny, heartbreaking, and strange experiences that led her to the self pillars and dating pillars—standards for ourselves and for others—such as The emotions and emojis, or emotional maturity Mommy Warbucks, or control your money Finding your north star, or character and faith The wet factor, or uncontrollable attraction In love with being in love, or fighting the marriage obsession If you're ready to approach dating with more confidence and success, discover how to define your pillars today.