Legislators and courts are realizing that the lack of a father image in the family is affecting the well being of the children in a family that has gone through a divorce or long term separation. We have brought this information to fathers as well as mothers since it is not about them but about the children. Children should be their first priority on how to handle their separation or divorce. How to self Mediate is also discussed as well as a detailed Parenting Plan that answers may questions the parents probably never even thought of or discussed while they were together.