A wake-up call for a national crisis in parenting - and a deeply helpful book for those who want to see their own behaviors as parents with the greatest possible clarity. Harvard psychologist RichardWeissbourd argues incisively that parents-not peers, not television-are the primary shapers of their children's moral lives. And yet, it is parents' lack of self-awareness and confused priorities that are dangerously undermining children's development. Through the author's own original field research, including hundreds of rich, revealing conversations with children, parents, teachers, and coaches, a surprising picture emerges. Parents' intense focus on their children's happiness is turning many children into self-involved, fragile conformists. The suddenly widespread desire of parents to be closer to their children-a heartening trend in many ways-often undercuts kids'morality. Our fixation with being great parents-and our need for our children to reflect that greatness-can actually make them feel ashamed for failing to measure up. Finally, parents' interactions with coaches and teachers-and coaches' and teachers' interactions with children-are critical arenas for nurturing, or eroding, children's moral lives. Weissbourd's ultimately compassionate message-based on compelling new research-is that the intense, crisis-filled, and profoundly joyous process of raising a child can be a powerful force for our own moral development. | The Parents We Mean To Be by Richard Weissbourd, Paperback | Indigo Chapters